Memorials after a Death in a School

When someone dies in a school community, that school often becomes the focus of various memorials. Creating standard policy for the use and length of time for schools to host memorials is particularly important so that decisions are not made when situations are emotionally charged. There is much to consider when determining the appropriateness of a memorial and the long-lasting effects of memorialization.

Schools are a natural gathering place and one where students and staff are comfortable congregating with one another. It is also typically able to host large gatherings, unlike someone’s home. However, creating memorials at school can be complicated as there is no one correct answer to the question of whether or not a school should allow for memorials. That said, several practical guidelines exist that will help make decisions about both in-person and physical memorials. It is highly encouraged that all schools develop policies in advance so these decisions are proactive, and not made in the heat of a tragic moment.

When considering a memorial, think about the following:

· Who should be involved in making these policies (students, staff, community members, mental health providers)?
· Who will oversee all memorial events?
· What kinds of options are allowed at a memorial service? Should they all look the same or should there be some choice?
· Who will be available for emotional support if needed on-site?
· Will the school allow memorials for death due to suicide and/or drug overdose? What specific message(s) do we need to communicate about these types of losses?
· Are permanent memorials such as tree plantings and plaques are permitted?
· How and where should temporary memorials be placed so they are not re-traumatizing?
· Are items such as t-shirts, bracelets, yearbook dedications, and hats permitted?
· How will these memorials potentially impact other students, particularly ones that are at-risk for mental health challenges?
· Will memorial services be held during school hours? Will students have the option not to attend?

These are just some questions to consider when a student or staff member dies. For consultation in these matters, please contact us at info@inner-harbor.org.